We all go through tough situations in our lives whether that deals with family, friendships, relationships, or even within ourselves. When we were younger it was a lot easier to talk about how we felt whether that was a teacher asking the class how everyone was doing or once you get home your family asks you how was school. Now, as we get older I start to realize we don’t get asked how we feel too often. This isn’t entirely anyones fault. We get older and more events tend to pile up such as weddings, birthdays, school, moving away, and even funerals. We come to an age where we have to focus on ourselves and forget to ask our friends and family how they’re doing. We just get… busy. You ever have that friend that you were so close with then all of a sudden time flies by and you two haven’t talked in so long? You start to question was it your fault that you two haven’t talked in awhile? Is the connection just gone? Do all those memories just vanish like it was nothing? It’s none of that really. It’s just a part of growing up. Sometimes we outgrow people, and meet new friends and family that fit in our lives in that moment.
The way we view friendships and relationships is not realistic. We find certain people that make us feel something strongly or powerfully, or amazingly, and we want to hold on to that feeling for as long as possible. We should not focus on holding onto that specific feeling, but be more present in the moment for as long as it lasts. Life is not made up of long-term commitments, it’s made up of moments.
It’s okay if a friendship doesn’t last for 20 years.
It’s okay if a relationship doesn’t turn into a marriage.
It’s okay. If the moment was magic, it was magic.
But, even if you don’t have friends, family, or a significant other to ask how you’re doing then I am here to ask you,
“How are you doing”?
Really think about that question and be honest with yourself. Feel the feelings that you have, and that’s completely normal. It’s called being human. Overall, I know we’re getting older. I know we’re stressing and going through the motions with every problem we have. It might be a job. It might be family issues. It might be a break-up. It might be something within yourself. But it’ll be okay.
I just hope you heal from the thing you don’t talk about anymore. Things that make you silent and feel that you couldn’t tell anybody because you thought they didn’t care or they had their own problems to deal with. I hope that you heal from the things people have stopped asking about because they just assume that you’re okay. I hope you heal from the things and the people that put you down and left you feeling insecure or lonely. I hope that pain you may be feeling gets replaced with the kind of happiness that makes you appreciate why things had to happen the way they did. If you are not nearly there yet, well then I hope you get there soon and your healing process is beautiful.
As we get older, we tend to forget how we’re doing. Whatever you’re going through, I hope you heal. With love,
Another Lost Boy