One Year In New York

July 19th, 2020 - July 19th, 2021

What a crazy, wonderful, emotional, and wild year this has been living in New York. Writing this now has made me look back and reflect on exactly what I was mentioning in my journal a year ago. Last year from today, I was on a flight to an apartment I’ve never seen and roommates I’ve never met before. I was leaving the airport with tears in my eyes saying bye to the ones I love. Those first few weeks maybe even months was difficult. I was living in a brand new city for the first time in my whole life thinking,

“Did I make a mistake moving here”?

It was painful to think how far away I was from home during those moments.

Of course, throughout time and healing, it has been nothing but up since the first day I moved.

My roommate told me that “the first year living in New York is going to hurt. It’s going to suck, but trust me it’ll be better and worth it”.

And he was totally right. As I continued to explore the city on my own I’ve learned so much about myself and how grateful I was to be in a city that people dream of living in.

I was able to meet new people and experience new places as things started to open up during the pandemic. I will always remember key moments of my first year being here:

  • 1st weekend out of quarantine: celebrating my cousin’s birthday at Central Park

  • Listening to music, writing, and journaling in Williamsburg Brooklyn by myself to reflect on moving to New York

  • Meeting my next potential roommate through a friend back home and going to a rooftop laying there until 5 AM in the morning (first time staying up until the sun came up in NYC)

  • Hanging out with a friend who I haven’t seen since middle school that lives here in New York now. She’s introduced me to places and we also were on a rooftop late at night while it started to rain (movie scene vibes)

  • Met new friends and was invited to a party in Brooklyn while not knowing anyone there

  • Meeting new friends from the Bay Area at Prospect Park for the first time and it was raining in the summer. I was playing frisbee in the rain and had a nice picnic with them

  • Biden winning the presidential election: I went to Washington Square Park by myself and saw the city erupt and gather together.

  • Getting my bike stolen but of course, it’s memorable, and learned New York toughens you up

  • Getting my tattoos and more to come - shoutout to my artist who I befriended

  • 25th birthday at Central Park - had time by myself to reflect and just experience my first birthday in New York during the beautiful fall season. Gathered some friends I met in New York

  • Thanksgiving: Spending Thanksgiving with my cousins from the Bay Area who also moved here and making this an annual celebration

  • New Year’s: Celebrated New Year’s coming into 2021 with my cousins on a rooftop

  • Experiencing snow for the first time ever especially living in New York

  • Started life coaching in January to help my client out for several months

  • Reconnecting with a friend from middle school who eventually moved back to California but introduced me to lovely people and new spots

  • My first ever New York photoshoot at my friend’s studio

  • Mom and aunt visit me and my cousin in New York for the first time and treated them out for an early Mother’s Day

  • Started to go to therapy

  • My best friend from LA visited for 2 weeks and threw a party at her Airbnb and showed her around Brooklyn

  • The countless events, concerts, picnic days, bars, and going out meeting new people has been a continuous thing throughout my first year

  • 4th of July: having my old roommates from home visit and going to see soulection at Elsewhere in Brooklyn / also spending time with my cousins and their friends from back home who visited too

Again, these are all things that I can remember right now but every day here has been my favorite memory. Every day is spontaneous and I never plan things out anymore. I used to be such a big planner, but I’ve learned that sometimes things change about us and we adapt to the environment we live in.

I say this to everyone I meet or see but moving to New York has been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life.

I’m so much happier now and do feel like I’m living my best life. I can say that I do plan on staying here for years to come and am excited about all the new adventures I will have in this next year.

Keeping it short and sweet but thank you New York for being my new home and welcoming me. The transition here and the emotions I felt a year ago were agonizing. But, I’m in a completely better mindset now and so content with where I am and where I am going with my life. I know I don’t have it all figured out yet but I know things take time. I will take it day-by-day and just enjoy every moment I have here.

Cheers to my first year living in one of the greatest cities in the world.

With love,

Another Lost Boy